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If I’m being so negative…then dude…seriously? F*ck off!


I have been a victim of the “You’re too negative” blahzay blah nonsense, too! More than once!

And it’s almost always because I sniffed out bullshit and called it out or I saw some bullshit and pointed it out!

Or maybe I went through some shit and released it out!

I am human. I am not going to have a good day all the damn time.

My struggles are not yours and yours are not mine.

I don’t wake up and go to bed negative. I just wake up and go to bed with different stresses than you do.

Some of my social circle really use to upset me and I even thought about cutting some friends off. They bark about how negative I was being on social media, but VERY VERY VERY few friends cared to simply ask “What’s the matter?”

People would have known that I let go of an abusive ex and it just really put me in an ambiguous place with my feelings big time. I mean, who do you talk to about something like that?!

I was violated, embarassed, hurt, angry…..all of that!

The best way to vent without REALLY saying what is wrong was through Facebook or other social media outlets…including blogging.

So it more so hurt that people immediately jumped down my throat saying I am so pessimistic without caring to ask what’s wrong. Even some of my own family didn’t care to freaking ask.

So when you see someone with a not so nice post, blog or attitude, seriously, leave them the hell alone. They are human too and may be going through shit your small-minded ass would never understand.

And if they are OOOHHH SOOO TOXIC, then cut them the hell off. If their posts and blogs are just oh so tramautizing to you, stop reading them…..dumbass. And why are you paying so much attention to people you more than likely barely know?!!??!!

And for some people to get so upset over someone else’s thoughts just goes to show you that there are so many people in the world who simply don’t have a damn life and it’s quite sad.

I have since gotten over the things the ex did to me which was some years back, but I most certainly do call out nonsense when I see fit or when I care enough!

If I know something doesn’t feel right, I will likely say something, especially when you are asking of my time or money. And you will very likely not like what I have to say because it will be the truth. I’ve been in that position countless times!

When people hear the truth about their nonsense they usually get ass hurt real quick. Oh well. Life is full of disappointments unfortunately. I’m certain your momma taught you that…I hope.

But the next time you THINK someone is being so “negative,” if it’s bothering you that damn much, in the mist of you complaining so damn much about it, just ask them what’s up. I’m sure you will change your attitude. And furthermore, stop paying attention to thoughts and feelings that are not your own. People are not designed to march to your tune all the time.

I mean, your tune may very well suck! Nothing personal! And that’s no reason to get pissy when someone tells you the truth about it!

Thanks for reading!

 

 

A good way to reduce your hirsutism: Get more active and Stop giving a Damn!


Ok ladies. I have been thinking about this specific topic for a while; hirsutism and stress.

But until now, I have not come across anything credible as far as stress relating to hirsutism….and now I finally have!

This article posted in the U.S. National Institute of Health Library website details very briefly how stress differs from IH women and normal women. While this was posted on a federal U.S. health website, I believe the research itself was European.

According to the briefing, 90 normal ladies and 90 hirsute ladies had several cortisol-based levels tested. Cortisol is mainly produced in the adrenal glands. It is a steroid that can alter throughout the day depending on your activities, food intake, etc. Depending on what type of medications you take, like birth control or performance enhancers, they can alter your estrogen and androgen levels, thus increasing/decreasing your cortisol levels. Too little can potentially cause the body to produce too much androgen, thus causing your hirsutism.

The findings from the article indicated that “due to stress, these hirsute women do have altered adrenocortical function, as assessed by the estimation of these corticosteroids of which urinary unconjugated cortisol was found to be the most sensitive index.”

When I saw the word stress, I was not surprised. From personal experience, I know about stress all too well.

***NOTE*** IF YOU PAID ATTENTION TO THE MEDICAL ARTICLE, THE TESTED WOMEN WITH HIRSUTISM HAD IDIOPATHIC HIRSUTISM! MEANING THEIR BLOOD  AND MENSES LEVELS WERE JUST AS NORMAL AS THE “NORMAL” GROUP OF WOMEN!

I can admit I do not always handle it easily and many of times go off on a major tissy due to unwelcome and unnecessary stress.

As a single mom, money issues stress me COMPLETELY THE FUCK OUT!!! I worry about gas to get them to school, lunch money for the month, uniforms for leisure activities, keeping the lights on, buying them clothes they like to keep them from being teased, to getting enough food in the house, to wondering when the hell I’m going to get married to that one special man for me and great step-dad for them, to why won’t these God-awful student loans disappear to why the sky is blue to why my toe nails stay over grown to why grass grows…..STTTTTOOOPPPPPP stressing ladies!!!

Even if you think it’s important, if you cannot simply do nothing about it, stop tripping about it! PERIOD! You’re killing yourself! And making your hormones clearly work out of wack! Re-read my note above! If the stress levels of IH women were compared to those of normal women, when all menses levels were normal in all subjects, that tells you IH women simply stress too much and one of those side effects is abnormal hair growth!

Just this past week, I walked about of my job in tears because I was stressed out over nonsense. My boss delivered an assignment to me under conditions I (and everyone else in the building) know I cannot deliver without some assistance even though I was directed NOT to get help with the assignment! HUH?…..Yes, I have one of those type of bosses. I do take comfort in knowing all (and I do mean ALL) my coworkers know this individual is a piece of work…though I can find another suitable word in place of piece of “work” !!!!

So I told myself “I need to leave this fucking place!” and that’s what I am trying to do! But in the meantime, the most I can do is do my best on the job, even if it means defying my boss’s instructions. If I know shit will get done right, then so be it. I know I did it right and I did my best! And you need to take the same attitude with various bullshit going on in your life too!

Be righteous in your behavior; know that you are being good to people. If they don’t act the same way back, just give them a “fuck you” smile and keep it moving! Money…if you cannot afford the shoes knowing you need groceries, this should be rhetorical but the shoes will simply have to sit on the shelf a little longer!

I had a bad habit of dressing to the nines……….for no reason! I barely went on dates, I don’t have many boyfriends so I had to give myself a big time reality slap: “Monica, why are you buying all this bullshit to wear….like….ONCE?!” It was ridiculous!

Dating?! Oh god…that word is stress in its own right! I will tackle dating in a later post!

SO…WHAT AM I DOING TO REDUCE MY STRESS, YOU ASK?

One, Maintaining my hirsutism routine. I am still taking my medicines for it. I still epilate and use my generic Vaniqa cream which is definitely slowing the growth. I am even considering laser hair removal for my neck to slow the growth and clear up my skin a little more. I found out I could get a great (and I mean GREAT!) discounted price on my treatments at a well known spa so why not?! 🙂

Secondly,  I am giving my boss the finger (at least in my head, I am!), and cautiously establishing some bonds at the workplace (I say cautiously because not everyone in your workplace is your friend! Keep some stuff to yourself!). It’s a good way to have a professional outlet, especially one that has been there done that in a hostile working environment! In the meantime, I discussed my issues with my superiors of the nonsense I am dealing with, as well as seek other employment options privately. I have considering blogging for side income too! Nothing like getting paid to do what you’re passionate about!

Third, I try to cook more as opposed to fast foods. I made chicken and rice for my kids last night and made myself a cucumber salad with seasoning. It’s quite good. I am actually addicted to it! And I posted on a previous blog for PCOS/Hirsutism diets that cucumbers are great for helping to regulate sugar levels. Insulin resistance is related to PCOS and hirsutism in numerous cases. This also ties in with my money issues. The less frivolous spending I do with leisure crap, the more money I can conserve and stay out of the negative in my bank account! This also helps me build my Roth IRA back up! (Yes, I am a little financially savvy!) Like many folks, I had to deplete my IRA savings to survive a few years back. Now I can finally build it back up and it makes me feel good!

Fourth, I signed up for Zumba and Bollywood dancing classes! I am so excited about it! I heard it works your mid section, hips and boo-tay!

Cartoon of lovely Bollywood dancers!

Fifth, I signed my children up for gymnastics come January! I was more excited for them than they were! I love watching them smile!

Sixth, I take advantage of cheap vacations like cruises! My girlfriend books them for a living and often gives a great rate! So I take advantage of those type of offers. I don’t need a balcony room or anything like that! I go for the economy $400-$500 bucks a person-type rooms and of course, you can pay in installments, which is great! And I also go for the ones where I don’t have to fly to the port where the boat is leaving! Luckily, my friend was able to find a cruise leaving from a nearby city in my state! HOLLA!

Seventh, I simply cut off flaky people in my life and people who I held in high regard at one point (males AND females, friends and family!) who seem to have forgotten me or pay me no mind! I know they upset you and hurt your feelings, but being angry and disappointed is also a form of stress. You don’t need it! Stay off Facebook and Twitter! Who cares about their damn updates! And I am not trying to be a pessimist about it but really…..who REALLY cares? And certainly don’t start comparing yourself if you don’t exactly have much to boast about on social media. Hell, there is a beauty in keeping shit to yourself ladies….SERIOUSLY, THERE IS!!!! TRUST ME! And honestly, If they cannot entertain the thought of your company, don’t entertain the thought of them PERIOD!

Lucky number seven! Those are things I am slowly trying to do for myself to make me more active and less stressed….and ultimately not give  a damn!

There is not justification in worrying over what you cannot control and what does not worry over you! You may find yourself happier and hopefully a little more hairless!

Thanks for reading!