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Guys and Their Hairy Women Fetish!

from i.chzbgr.com

I know guys that got an S&M complex, an older woman fetish, a shaved vagina fetish, a hairy vagina fetish….I even had a guy tell me once he enjoys sniffing and licking hairy anus and musty feet!!

(Excuse me while I barf….)

Ok…I’m back.

In general, I believe fetishes are healthy. I believe people should find sexiness in various things in life. It is what makes the concept of sex so mysterious and exciting.

But, some guys (and some girls) take it a tad bit too far.

I never dated anyone with a hairy girl fetish, but I have heard of them and I have two opinions:

1. I think it’s freaking awesome that guys may actually be turned on by what most would consider flaws. Hirsutism is not only a physical flaw but an emotional one. If you get with a guy that likes his women a little bushy, in complete honesty, it can be a boost not only for your self-image but your bedroom life!

2. On the other hand, don’t expect me to take pics of my overgrown Amazonian bush for your freaky, wack off project! I share initimate pictures on my blog because I want to help women with hirsutism, not because I want to be pin up girl. I have no issue with guy’s finding my flaws sexy, but I have an issue with guys assuming I want to be a part of their wet dreams. It’s one thing if a guy says: “Hey, I think your sideburns are kinda sexy” as opposed to “Hey it’s not biggie babe. I love hairy pussy!”

See the difference……….?!

Tumblr, one of my favorite social hubs, has a few blogs dedicated to hairy asses…though many of them are borderline porn! If you don’t believe me, google “hairy women” and watch the Tumblr pages pop up or just check THIS out!!!

I kinda wish hairy women were displayed in a more honorable light as opposed to being a fetish pin up or being ridiculed. Why can’t we just be WOMEN like everyone else?!

I actually love women showing off the natural them, I just wish there wasn’t so much taboo behind being natural.

So fellas, we love that you like our hairy sideburns, legs, anuses, and vaginas. Just keep it respectable, k?!






How Do you Tell a Guy You Like that You are Hirsute!

Ok, so even though I blogged about this topic before in a way,  I felt the need to chat about it again with some differences.

Hirsutism is embarrassing for many women. The more severe it is, the more it bothers you. We know this much!

You can typically tell when you have it severely if your hairs are more dark than light and if those hairs are thicker than the rest of your body hair and if it grows abnormally in areas it is not supposed to.

Here is a good chart via Dr. Oz on how to determine your hairiness.

So back to the topic at hand……so you meet someone you actually LIKE for once! I mean, the interest is mutual, the conversation is great, the ideals are mutual, the desires are mutual, and everything is actually falling into place with your growing friendship for once!

Then, you get home, wash your cake-layers of makeup off and realize that ingrown on your lip!! OMG! Was it there the whole damn date!!! Was he looking at you or your third eye the whole night!!!

Well, all is not lost. Don’t prepare to get put on the “Never call her or her third eye” list just yet!

It’s very likely he didn’t pay much mind to your third eye ingrown. I mean, if you are as great as he assumed (and yes, you are!) then he probably didn’t even notice it.

And in not noticing it, he didn’t think about it, or your mild 5’o clock shadow that you strategically covered up with pounds of Cover Girl foundation.

So if you make it successfully past date one or two, I would not even mention your hirsutism. As a matter of fact, let him mention or let it become one of those odd ball topics for future dates.

Or this is something I did recently to kinda call out my hirsutism with a guy I liked:

On a recent really, really nice date, he was talking about himself, in a moderate way, and made mention that he cannot grow alot of facial hair. He pointed at what sections have always been bald and what areas grew alot.

I went into a little detail about facial hair stating how my children’s dad grew facial hair abnormally too, and I even pointed to the regions on my face to show him what I was talking about….of course over a couple of layers of foundation!

Must not have been that big of a deal because we still chat to this day and facial hair has not come up at all! 🙂

So here are some tips to follow when to break your hirsutism down to a guy you actually like:

  1. First of all, you got to like him and you need to KNOW he feels the same. Don’t talk too much about your personal life if he’s wishy-washy about any future with you, even just as friends. If he comes off as a dickhead, excuse yourself to the bathroom and never return!!!
  2. Get a good feel for the guy. Is he a liberal spirit? Happy go lucky type? Quiet and reserved? Introverted? Pessimistic? The more open he is about topics, the more open he may be about a health condition you cannot control.
  3. Make it a joke! Create a topic you and him can laugh light-heartedly about!
  4. Talk about laser hair removal. It’s so popular, who hasn’t heard about it! Tell him in that way so he knows you are aware of your condition and would like to manage it. Hell, he may even believe you don’t need! 🙂
  5. Don’t take his goofy comments to heart like “Your mustache is cute!” If he is truly a winner, he probably was not trying to truly insult you and therefore you should not take it such. He is noticing that “Hey….so you have some flaws! So what! I still fancy ya!”
  6. Just don’t mention it. If he doesn’t notice or care and he continues to show interest in you, then you shouldn’t put so much thought into it.

Now these tips are not ways to get a guy to like you. These are tips to make discussing your hirsutism with him a little easier. He has to be a decent guy upfront.

If he gives you the slightest inkling of being an asshole, why do you want that in your life anyway?! You are not a punching bag and should not allow yourself to be treated as such. I am sure his ass got plenty more flaws than you will ever have. If he has to be an ass just to get through the day, you should feel sorry for him!

Well, I hope this little chat about your extra fur will make chatting about it a little easier with your boo-thang!

He is truly a keeper, he won’t give a damn!

Thanks alot!


Single Parent Dating: Don’t prematurely compromise SHIT!

I am a single mom of two school aged kids. I am rather meticulous about the type of men I have around them, as any single mom should be.

The very few I have had them around did not stick around long. One was basically an undercover verbal abuser (not to them of course!) and the other was sloppy in trying to cover up his divorce…which there was never a divorce in the first place.

Needless to say, they did not stick around long at all.

My continuous poor choices in guys got me to thinking about myself and what is it that I am doing so wrong? To the point the shit started depressing me.

I was really at a lost! I didn’t behave like a slut, I didn’t dress trashy, I didn’t come off needy, I listened to what they had to say, I was interested in listening about their lives and such, I did nothing that would give them an impression to the point I would stop hearing from them.

It almost made me kinda sad. I started thinking my hirsutism was that bad and convinced myself this is the way it’s just going to be for me.

I truly thought at near 30 years old, I would have been married. The reality of it is is that I can barely keep anyone interested.

Then, after having a chat with a gentleman friend of mine, 20 years my senior, it dawned on me that I know what I am looking for, but I am prematurely compromising even before getting serious.

I was mentally making excuses for their bullshit early on!!!

Let me explain….going back to s0-called divorced boy. After I found out about his non-existing divorce, I was pretty pissed and told him to lose the number and address. He did….couple weeks later he’s all apologetic and shit. He admitted he was still married and that his marriage may take some time to dissolve. Didn’t want it to affect his Naval officer job or his kids lives. Like an idiot, I forgave him….temporarily. Then I got to thinking a few weeks after that….”Why am I compromising with this fool? I look just as bad waiting for this guy to dissolve his marriage, which might not even happen. I wonder what she would say or if she knows he wants to leave her? Why am I  COMPROMISING with this nonsense?” Shortly, after I met someone one, told him, he got ass hurt about it…and the rest is history!

Abusive boy. Taught me alot about finances and such..saving for a house and ins and outs of investing. Smart as hell, I must admit. But abusive. This guy was half black, half Hispanic and would proclaim over and over how he hates black people, they are all ignorant and know nothing about politics. HUH? Trust me when I say I cussed his ass out and kicked him out of my home. He apologized later and explained how his rotten ex-girlfriends, who were Black, were all ditzes. I said any color woman can be a ditz and don’t EVER  categorize YOUR OWN KIND based on sloppy ass women YOU dated! That type of attitude once I found out went no where with me fast. Why would I want to COMPROMISE  that nonsense?! Sad thing is this dude has two pretty little black girls he is raising like me. He has been blocked on my phone and Facebook for almost 2 years…

You may be compromising too much too soon, like I was…even to yourself. So I made up a list of things NOT to compromise as a single mom while dating:

  1. Your sanity. If he driving you batty with his stale ass personality or demanding ways on date number two, seek other options.
  2. Your children. That’s a fucking gimme.
  3. Your job. If he makes mention of you in any type of way, shape, form, or fashion of not having a professional life and you want one, let’em go.
  4. His marriage. Seriously?! I don’t give a damn how unhappy his wife makes him. Let his punk ass cry to his momma, not YOU!
  5. His divorce. If it ain’t been at least a year since his previous marriage, hang it up. Ain’t nothing cute about being  a rebound piece of ass because likely he ain’t trying to get booed up…not seriously. Needless to say his feelings for you may very well be shorted lived. He may be a cool guy, but nothing to take too serious.
  6. His family. If he explains how he has not seen his kids in 6 months or is not close with his family, (he may try to apply that same attitude with you and your close knit family), that should be a warning sign. If not, he needs to explain himself big time. Unless his kids live on the other side of the planet there is no excuse not being more active in your kids. I can think of VERY, VERY few justified excuses.
  7. You.
  8. Your happiness.

If you are looking for someone who has their mess in line RIGHT NOW, don’t settle for less.

Period. That is why you stay lost in love. Don’t settle. EVER. You want permanency, not just someone “to do.”

And plus it’s only fair. Yes, you have a single family, but you are a productive member of society, paying bills, caring for your family, trying to have a little fun in life too. Why should he be anything else? I am not saying he needs to have a house on the hill with a Benz in the drive way, but he does need to have what you have: Stability.

If you don’t bring drama of any kind to the table, he shouldn’t either. If you work full time, so should he. If you have a degree, him having one would be nice.

These are not stuck up, booshie, bitchy, tight ass standards either. Notice I didn’t mention nothing about looks right?! He doesn’t have to be God’s gift to mankind and you shouldn’t want him to be! Imagine all the bitches you would have to fight off!

I hate to say it but pay attention to the little things….ya know….the things he takes for granted because HE doesn’t think there are a big deal.  If it makes your Spider senses tingle, make a mental note and be ready resume your nearest exit. Life is too short to be trying to figure out companions who simply are not for you!

That may be why you cannot keep them interested in you because they know your expectations are something they cannot commit to, so let them be.

Maintain your reasonable standards and ever expect or settle for less. And certainly, don’t ever fight with yourself about compromising bullshit. Ever.

Bikini Hair Epilating, Going “Down there,” Boy-Cut Panties and Other Tips *PICS & Raunchy Humor!*

So I woke up this morning and realized I have not tamed my coochie in a while.

Yes, it was looking like  it hasn’t been cut in about 4 months!

And I got to thinking that, while preparing my ammunition for my coochie hair, who is looking down there anyway?! Why all the huff puff about making the bikini line looking flawless!?

For any type of ethnic background and hair type, whenever you remove a hair from the shaft you run the risk of an ingrown, even if you removed it properly.

I like epilating alot, especially for my face and bikini line. Epilating is basically several tweezers on a small device rotating rapidly to capture all hairs and pull from the root. If it sounds painful it’s because it is! But it takes getting use to like anything else.

There simply is no method of hair removal that is painless while being effective AND THERE IS NO PERMANENT  HAIR REMOVAL METHOD BESIDES ELECTROLYSIS!!!!

Even as promising as laser hair removal is, you WILL NEED touch-up sessions in the long-term, thus it is not permanent. This is coming from a woman who has been there, done that with laser hair removal.

And even more deep, does your man REALLY go down “there” that much that the shit constantly got to look like the letter “I” ?!

If so, I ‘m officially jealous of you, and secondly, if he any damn good at it, why the hell is he worried about your bikini line?! He ain’t munching on that too is he?! (Sounds kinky though…. 🙂

Now in his defense (or hers…yes I got love for the LGBT community too!) you may want to keep it trimmed occasionally. I mean, he’s trying to please you, not floss!!!

So getting back to my Amazonian bikini line…I typically do not like shaving my bikini line and try to keep to epilating due to the horrific razor bumps that can happen down there.

But I made sure to moisten my body first and then epilate in the tub!


  1. Ran very warm bath water and put a very generous amount of body hemp oil in it along with a small amount of bath bubbles.
  2. Got my epilator together
  3. Sat my ass in
  4. Relaxed for about 10 minutes to let my body and pores take in the oil.
  5. I took the epilator and shaved my happy trail and bikini line
  6. I then took the epilator part and epilated my trail and bikini line (*Note: my epilator is a shaver/epilator in one that I can use in water!)
  7. Because the epilator can be uncomfortable, I only epilated in the direction of hair growth bit by bit.
  8. Got my hairy ass out
  9. Dried off and immediately put some Aloe Vera gel on my fresh epilated regions as well as some organic shea and coconut oil butter by Bubble and Bee. (*note: good stuff but it’s greasy as hell! Use lightly!) Also try, Bikini Zone.…Good shit there!
  10. Put some clothes on my ass
  11. Took pics!

Keeping the bikini line moisten keeps hairs from acting an ass and not ingrowing. Again, I cannot stress putting something on your freshly epilated hairs. Aloe Vera is good on everything and Bikini Zone is also VERY GOOD for reducing ingrowns! It works very well for my cooch!

And you can always wear some boy cut panties. May work best for those who do not like to removal all the hair. I personally do not remove my bikini hairs full Brazilian style. I mean, WHY? Seriously, why?! Who is going to be looking that damn hard at your ass other than YOU?! I am all for feeling great about yourself but I don’t think I want hot wax put between my ass and ripped off. Might have to pass on that on that one! But suit yourself!!!

Boy cuts are of course shaped to cover much of the bikini line if you are still self-conscious about stubborn blemishes that wont seem to go away.  Here are some photos of me in some, though the quality in some may be slightly blurry because the mirrors in my bathroom and the lens on my camera phone were a little foggy after bathing:

Wear these to cover up much of your bikini line blemishes. They cover mine very well. I actually prefer boy cut bikinis and underwear to regulars.

Did I mention boy cuts make your ass look GREAT!!!!! (*OK OK I’ll stop!  LOL!)

So here is the real reason you’re here! Some before and afters of my freshly epliated bikini!

Right before me getting my stank ass in the tub!

The other side of my cooch.

Happy Trail Before

My happy trail before epilation.

Bikini Line After

My bikini line after epilating in the tub. ONLY epilate in the tub or shower if you have a wet/dry epilator

Bikini Line After

There are still small hairs that even my epilator didn’t catch but as you can see it’s pretty clean and some old blemishes are going away! I make it a point to not shave down there all the time, which allows blemishes and ingrowns to clear up.

Full view bikini line

With boy cut panties you cover up many scars which is good because it allows damaged skin to repair itself while enjoying the beach or your man doing his “thing” down there!!! 🙂

Let me remind you that epilating hairs down there can hurt! I recommend only epilating when the skin is very lubricated.

You can also do this method with waxing as well, just as long as you lubricate your skin with Aloe Vera gel or some type of lotion or Bikini Zone lubed on all recently tweezed, waxed, electrolysized, lasered or epilated hairs.

So the point is epilating does hurt but it removes sensitive hairs very well and maybe help ease your bikini line blues!

Thanks for reading!

18 reasons why being DUMPED might be a Compliment!

So….I was listening to one of my favorite 80’s songs by New Edition: You’re Not my Kind of Girl.

I noticed it was not in my iTunes library so I went ahead it purchased it and listened to it over and over. If you are not familiar with the lyrics here ya go:

“Oh girl I know that you’re
Attracted to me
And I should feel the same
About you
There’s just something wrong
I don’t know what it is
That keeps us from becoming a two

It’s not your looks, you’re very pretty
It’s not your style, the way you dress is oh so fresh
It’s not the way that you carry yourself

Oh, girl I’m sorry
You’re not my kind of girl
Case you’re the kind of girl That a man’s dreams are made of

Oh girl I’m sorry
You’re not my kind of girl

Cause you’re the kind of girl
That a man would be proud to call his own

Girl listen to me
You’re so pretty
I wouldn’t change a thing about you
But I’ve been in love before
So I know how it feels
And the chemistry just isn’t there”

And here is the cute video to go with it!

Sexy ass little Ralph Tresvant basically is proclaiming he very much so likes this gorgeous ass girl but something is simply missing from her….or him!

In the past couple of years or so, I have had the worst luck with dating. I read all the books, applied Steve Harvey’s “90-day Rule” from his book Straight Talk, No Chaser, (basically, no oochie coochie for at least 90 days!), behaved like a complete lady, flirted a little bit, never went past 2nd base, I mean, I did everything right….and my furry ass is still single!

It seemed like I simply was not keeping their interest and I was not sure why. It did hurt but more so, it bothered me. I really wanted to figure out what I may have been doing wrong with these men.

At first, I thought it was because I was a single mom and they wanted someone with more freedom. But that was not matching up with their behavior at all. Maybe they noticed my overdue pedicure, or my crooked teeth, or a chipped nail!

Then, yes, insecure little me thought it may have been my hirsutism. Maybe they saw more sideburns than they felt was natural!!

But then it dawned on me that they recognized I simply was not the one, but it might have been for a complimentary reason!

Here are my 18 reasons why a guy seems all into you backs down out the blue and sadly end up dumping or cutting you off when you did almost everything right:

  1. He recognizes you are pretty dope but he is scared of loving again
  2. maybe he just wants to run the streets more (in that case, shit….let him!)
  3. maybe he recognizes she’s too good for him
  4. maybe he’s scared she will noticed his inverted nipples
  5. maybe he’s attached to some chicken head who is keeping him from realizing the prize the girl in the song truly is
  6. He’s unemployed
  7. He’s accustomed to pulling shitbucket looking bitches and you are best looking thing he ever pulled
  8. You don’t act like you need him
  9. You’re the perfect girl….at the WRONG TIME!
  10. You got your shit together better than he does
  11. He has terminal B.O. (body odor) and doesn’t know how to explain it!
  12. His breath is terminally shitty
  13. He can’t kiss
  14. He can’t fuck
  15. He’s a cornball and he knows you ain’t trying to date a dink
  16. He’s too smart it bores her to death
  17. He’s too dumb (in that case, lead him to the tallest cliff and inform him to plank….)
  18. He’s an undercover dickhead and doesn’t want you to find out because you actually are worthy of someone who isn’t a dickhead.

So next time he slowly stops responding to your texts, meets someone else, or just in general acts uninterested in you, don’t be sad. It’s very likely he is doing you a HUGE favor ladies and is silently telling you that you are the shit and he don’t deserve you!

Fellas, if I am wrong, please feel free to chime in! (this should get interesting!) 🙂

Thanks for reading!

Male PMS!?!? Ya Think?! *A little humor for the Ladies!*

Ok, this is not about hirsutism per say but it certainly may have something to do with hormones….male hormones at that!

This story is based on past true events in my professional life! In doing so, I am going to tweak the story just a little bit!

Basically, I work with men I don’t believe are getting any ass at home. I’m sorry but I just fucking don’t.

How the hell do you come to work and have a fucking attitude all damn day?! That’s to be expected from some angry chic stuck in a corner blaming others for her piss poor choices in her social circle, throwing everyone’s payroll checks at them because she failed to find anything better to do with her life but push a ragged mail cart up 5 floors!

These men come in, bitter and talking in a belittling manner to everyone! The type to have people in and out of meetings, driving to and from locations unnecessarily, all fucking day and expect shit to get done efficiently!

They have expectations of newbies who simply cannot meet them. They give unreasonable tasks with unreasonable rules with unreasonable expectations. The type that expects you to change your car’s oil and rotate the tires and get it right on the first try and don’t ask for even minimum assistance when you’ve never done it before.


And yes, the newbie in this situation is ME! I was given an assignment to accomplish that I simply cannot do without at least minimum assistance. Using the car as an example, would you want your car to be worked on by a newbie who was given no assistance in the manner?! *sigh* I know I know…rhetorical question.

Needless to say, my product was not up to par,  and the boss was pissed to shits….but to be told I could not get assistance sent me over the edge! How can I complete something correctly like that, a product that will be driven by people as example, without some peer review or some type of supervisor, especially on the first try!?

I went home beyond stressed and  furious to the point I was in tears!

As a single parent, me working is not an option! I HAVE to bring home a check or my daughters do not eat. And in this economic environment, a job is necessary! And I was scared this would affect my evaluation. I felt like I was skating on thin ice when I was pushed on the lake by a bully!

I eventually calmed down, told my supervisors very professionally of the incident, went to other folks for assistance anyway and felt much better about my final product. I felt even better being told by others that they had similar issues, if not worse, of this type!

I also found out this person was historically a migraine to work with! I am not sure his age but I’m pretty sure this dude was in his sixties. So when someone says historically, I think this person has been a dickhead all his damn professional life! Was probably even a rotten kid!

A friend on Facebook gave me this link and not only did I bust out laughing but it did actually make me feel better!

So this blog post is about shitty male attitudes and why they have them ALL THE TIME. I have never worked somewhere where NO ONE likes you because your personality is that rotten.

That would be a very depressing environment and even in typing this, I am thinking about other employment options! But it got me to thinking about male hormonal issues!

Here is a list of signs over my recent and past experience with men that have led me to believe they truly do have mental premenstrual symptoms:



  1. Keeps a damn attitude. I mean come on, bitches do that! Not dudes! If he getting a great piece of ass on the regular, why the hell is he so fucking mad?!
  2. Looks at girl’s boobs and asses entirely too much. I mean, in the work place that can be quite unprofessional. Why is it the cute secretary’s fault you aint married or divorced or married an overweight swamp rat?!
  3. Purposely makes everyone’s life miserable because of the marriage to the swamp rat!
  4. Gives piss poor, half ass compliments when you know your work was stellar!
  5. Makes a great salary but is driving a soccer van….and his kids are grown.
  6. Rolls his eyes at himself.
  7. Is the last person in the entire building to go home for the day.
  8. Spends the night at work instead of hauling his ass home.
  9. converses with himself.
  10. Walks with a slump, not a stride.
  11. More than likely has a medicine cabinet full of pill bottles for all kinds of……..shit.
  12. Realizes it will be too costly to divorce the swamp rat.
  13. Finds the dirt on the floor more fascinating than the sky.
  14. Never tags along for company outings.
  15. Has arguments with the ceilings.
  16. His best friends (his only friends) are his toes.

So these are just of the signs of a man having some PMS issues.

Of course this is not an exclusive list; feel free to tell me some!

And for the fellas, don’t start getting all sensitive and shit! This is just for the men who try to make others lives’ miserable because theirs are. If you are not like this, then don’t trip. Laugh about it, go shag your girlfriend and go the hell to sleep happy!

If you are, then get the hell away from my blog! I don’t need you cursing it!

Thanks for the laughs!