Depressed young woman. Courtesy of abovetopsecret.com
After researching some more medical studies on hirsutism, I came across quite a few of repetitive studies on hirsutism and depression.
It appears to be the norm (and understandably so) to be very depressed while dealing with excessive facial and body hair. For a young girl to deal with looking and feeling unfeminine can damage one’s self esteem in ways she or other hirsutes can understand.
Most hirsute girls tend to keep away from social settings, thus making it hard for her to make friends or have anyone to talk to about her condition.
And because she stays away from people so much, it makes it hard to feel accepted because she has grave difficultly accepting herself.
She looks in the mirror from far away and sees a normal girl, maybe even a rather beautiful one. But a close up reveals unsightly hair after unsightly hair, almost in the formation of that of a beard or mustache.
She spends nights crying to herself wondering what in the hell did she do so wrong to look like this? Why won’t it just go away? Is there a pill, a medicine, an exercise she should do to get rid of it?
She is scared to date and even make friends with other women for the fear of someone noticing her hair growth and judging her by that. She may feel other girls will find something they dislike about her and will further insult her through her hirsutism.
(Man, I know this shit too damn well, don’t I?)
According to one study, it is quite normal for teenage hirsute girls to feel a great deal of anxiety with their lives as opposed to “normal” teenage girls.
Another study showed that drastic results from laser hair removal greater helps improve a young girl’s self esteem. Too bad laser hair removal is so damn expensive. And it’s quite sad that young girl has to ask her parents for laser hair removal for her 16th birthday.
(But I prefer laser hair removal to a boob job.)
Another study correlates that hirsutism and increased testosterone are related to depression as well. Unfortunately, this does not differenitate between hirsutism and idiopathic hirsutism, meaning all of your hormonal levels are normal.
I can imagine the studies will probably not differ that much if comparing the types of hirsutism.
Facial hair fucking sucks! Period! And asking a young hirsute girl to accept herself is just plum hard and easier said than done when everyone else around her looks normal.
People don’t know what it’s like to be the “other guys;” ya know, the weirdo kids with little friends in school but the best grades, the special-needs kids that everyone was terrified of, the foreign exchange student that who dresses like color coordination does not exist because they never cared to, or the girl in math with the patchy sideburns.
No one knows what the “other kid” feels like unless they are one. If you are then welcome to my blog! 🙂
If you are hirsute and reading this, understand your self loathe and saddness is normal and I can tell you that most hirsute women are feeling what you are. Even if you are depressed, understand there are countless reasons why people develop depression, so you are not alone in your hopeless or thought of hopelessness.
There are cures to depression however. I sternly believe people were not put on this planet to be miserable. Life and all its nonsense has a way of disturbing the natural order of happy. Does not mean that it can’t be undisturbed!
There is life outside of hirsutism and depression. It’s just all about not being afraid to go out there and enjoy yourself. Besides, there is nothing in the mirror besides what you want to see. The real bliss is in looking at life 3 dimensionally; you will see things that you were never able to see before….like how beautiful you are inside and out!