I already wrote a post about hirsutism and depression and how the two are related when dealing with hormonal problems. It is quite the expectation to have lowered self-esteem when dealing with such health issues.
I have come to the conclusion that most hirsute girls are quite normal but they choose to deal with their hurt and depression in the dark. And that is probably another reason why there are not many books and medical reports on hirsutism when compared to other hormonal health concerns.
I was looking at personality disorders and something I might suffer from and do not even know it. My hirsutism has not helped at all in dealing with life in general!
I was so used to being upset and angry about it, I found a crazy way to equate it to everything wrong in my life.
“He dumped me….because I’m hirsute.”
“I didn’t get that job….because I’m hirsute.”
“She went off on me for no damn reason…because I’m hirsute.”
“My ankles are ashy…because I’m hirsute.”
“The world stop spinning on its axis…because I’m hirsute.”
“I am not beautiful….because I’m hirsute.”
Trust me when I say I OBSESSED about my extra body hair. To the point it affected how I dealt with social issues.
Even to this day, I am quite shy and introverted in certain social settings and it takes me some time to open up because I am scared someone will see my hyperpigmentation from all the tweezing and yanking I have been doing to my skin for many years because of the hair.
So when I cam across the disorder, Avoidant Personality Disorder, I could not help but to equate myself to this.
According to the A.D.A.M. Medical Encyclopedia, “avoidant personality disorder is a mental health condition in which a person has a lifelong pattern of feeling very shy, inadequate, and sensitive to rejection.”
If this is not me, even as I have found ways to deal with my hirsutism, I don’t know what is!!
People with this disorder exhibit the following, according to the article linked above:
- Be easily hurt when people criticize or disapprove of them (Check!)
- Hold back too much in intimate relationships (Partial Check!)
- Be reluctant to become involved with people (Double Check!)
- Avoid activities or jobs that involve contact with others (Partial Check!)
- Be shy in social situations out of fear of doing something wrong (Double Check!)
- Make potential difficulties seem worse than they are (Triple Check!)
- Hold the view they are not good socially, not as good as other people, or unappealing (Partial Check!)
The article states that antidepressants and just having someone to talk to are the best treatment options.
That’s why I firmly believe many women with hirsutism may have this disorder. I know women who are “happily” married with children and feel so upset and alone dealing with their hirsutism, even while having an understanding spouse.
I don’t have a spouse yet and I feel I will not be a good wife some days. Although I do not obsess about my hirsutism nowhere near as bad as I did several years ago, I feel I have programmed myself to be too isolated, making friends and being a socialite towards potential mates a huge challenge.
Seriously, I can count one less than one hand of the REAL friends I have remaining in my life! That is probably my own fault; but then again, I know how to give an asshole the dueces real quick!
But the bottom line is, if you suspect you have this disorder, as you can see, it’s nothing alarming in a life-threatening way, but it is quite possible it may affect your quality of life. You really need to find someone to talk to, even if it means chatting with folks online if you are too intimated to chat with people in your personal surroundings.
Hey, feel free to talk to me too!
And try chatting with someone who knows you well or wants to get to know you well. If you don’t know anyone, write about it! Simply take some time out to write about your sadness with hirsutism and then simply put your notebook down and take a nice walk, go out to eat or just go do something out of the norm. You will feel better, trust me!
You could try talking to a professional but I personally believe these conditions can be self-treated. Plus not may professionals really know how to deal with hirsutism and its associated depression. I had to go to a couple endocrinologists before finally getting a satisfying reply myself.
Don’t let your thoughts be alone in your isolation before they literally start eating away at your life. Let it be known, even if it means blogging about it!
Thanks for reading!